I'm totally a self sufficient machine. I either handle it, delegate it out, or restructure so I can get it done. We’re talking smooth running machine! Okay, that’s not true at all. If my head wasn’t connected to my body I’d literally get in the car, put the car in reverse, and then wonder why I couldn’t see? I’m a mess, not a hot mess, but a controlled mess. A hot mess is being everything that I am, but not showering. I shower, everyday. A controlled mess would be kinda like a functioning alcoholic. They’re intoxicated, not wasted and falling down, but you can smell the alcohol oozing out of their pores, they’re definitely happy, yet they still rock their day as if they were totally normal. So there you have it, I’m a controlled mess who secretly wishes I could function as an alcoholic by day. Wouldn’t that be the life? Luckily for the world, I’m not that talented and definitely couldn’t multi-task that life.
So anyway, back to my story...
Do you ever have the best intentions to be organized? Like when you buy your brand new 2017 planner for the year. You buy an 8 pack of the new colored gel tip pens too. You get home, open your shiny new planner and set all 8 pens next to it. Then you decide which color belongs with each task. The kids activities will be in purple, your bunco night in blue, your meals in green, and your workouts in red - because hey, we never miss our workouts. You have it all right there and it’s a freakin’ work of art! You know you’re going to keep up your design & planning process each & every month. Why wouldn’t you? You have colored gel pens!
Yep, this is totally me! I just did this not even 2 months ago. I have a silver glittery calendar and when you open it up you’ll see each day’s workout in a different color for the workout program, Insanity. I even have little stars around my recovery day because well, it’s a star filled kind of day! I made it to recovery! Yeah! That deserves lots of stars and, you guessed it, they’re all in different colors! Love my gel pens!
If you pulled $1,000 out of your pocket right now and said, “go find your calendar and this money is yours.” I’d have to cry. I have no clue where I put the damn thing. And forget about the gel pens!! I’m sure they’re with my daughters never ending supply of crayons we can never find? Does anyone else have that problem? There’s like 30 crayons in a box and I swear I’ve purchased at least 8 boxes over the 4 years I’ve known this kid. Do you know how many crayons we currently have? Two! Two flippin’ crayons. And one of them is broken.
I only know this because my daughter pulled the two crayons, a screw driver, Gus Gus a Cinderella glass figurine that’s missing an ear and my two 5lb metal weights out of the couch cushions tonight. WTF?! No wonder I hate that couch, now I know why it was so uncomfortable! Two 5lb weights, seriously? I didn’t even know they were missing?
We all start with good intentions and then our mornings, afternoons and soon the whole damn day has gone by and we’ve done nothing on our list. Someday’s I look back and think what the hell did I do with 15 hours? I know I went to Target (duh), had my coffee, did we eat? I’m sure we did. But what did we do with all of that time? And why am I so tired?!
One of my good friends told me today that she had all of her Christmas shopping finished and, get this, all of her presents are wrapped too! Meanwhile, over in Kristi’s magical glitter-sparkle world, I’m speed walking from store to store getting my bicep workout in from all the dang bags I’m carrying just praying they don’t bust open Home Alone style.
Did you know I literally sat on the toilet at the outlet mall today and checked my instagram? I just wanted a break, a peaceful break. I was in there for like 10 minutes! Who pee’s for 10 minutes?! It was actually very nice, no one bothered me, I was in a stall so I couldn’t be distracted. Just the lovely sound of water running and an occasional toilet flush. It was actually quite pleasant now that I look back on it.
Anyway, my point is, we’re all different. We all have our systems in place. Some are a little more chaotic than others, some are a little more organized than others. I”m all for improvement and next year! I’m totally writing in my calendar in the color pink “START SHOPPING NOW,” on November 1st! Get your list ready early next year, Mama is on it! I’ll let you know if I find my calendar, and someone should probably remind me to write THAT down.
We don’t have to have it all figured out. As a super high stressed individual who feels the need to control everything in her life, this year it finally hit me, I don’t have to be a crazy psycho path all the time. I can go with the flow. I can sit in the outlet mall’s bathroom for as long as I want. What’s the saying? “Stop and smell the….” wait...that doesn’t apply here. You get my point.
We can’t always do everything the way we want to everytime. In a perfect world yes, but life isn’t perfect. We can’t control every little detail so there’s no need to stress over the small stuff. Will I get all my gifts wrapped in time? Of course I will. That’s what gift bags are for. Shove it in the bag, toss in some tissue paper and voila your done!
I have been making improvements to my daily schedule. I can tell you that on the days I get up early and get my workout in, those are always hands down, guaranteed, my more productive days. The other days when there’s no workout, I feel as if I’m constantly playing catch up. I’m finally learning that just because I’m not a morning person, I’m better if I start each day as if I was. Fake it till you make it! That’s my slogan at 5:45am!
Most will say, “Oh I can’t workout that early, I just don’t have the energy.” That’s okay, the best time of day to workout is the time when you’ll actually do it! If your routine is to hit play during your lunch hour, or when the kids take a nap, or when everyone’s in bed, that’s great! The point is, you hit play, you got your body moving and you do what’s best for you and your body! No one ever said, “Man, I wish I never did that workout today.”
With 2017 rapidly approaching everyone will be making their New Year’s Resolutions. I’m totally guilty of it! I make a goals list every year and have it in my phone on my notes app. It’s a great reminder to keep me on track for the year. Do I hit everything? Nope! But I try. The point is, when it comes to feeling good about yourself, health and fitness shouldn’t be a New Year’s resolution. It should be a daily resolution.
Did you know that a 30 minute workout is only 2% of your entire day! 2%! With stats like that, there’s no way you can say “I just don’t have time.” Make the time. You’re allowed to make a 2% investment in yourself. That’s a better return than any savings account will give you!
My Mom and I are starting our New Year’s off right! We’re taking our 2% and putting it on our calendars (I’ll find mine before January 2nd, you’ll see!). We’re starting a workout program called 21 Day Fix. It’s 30 minute workouts that you do every day for 21 Days. The idea behind the program is that it takes 21 days to develop a habit. It comes with a very detailed eating plan. It’s not strict as in, “you must only eat this or that.” But it’s kinda like weight watchers, except there’s no point system. So you can eat whatever you want, but once you’re out of containers for the day, then you’re done. So if you eat clean, you get to eat more containers.
But, Kristi Rae, what containers? What are you talking about? The program comes with different colored containers all measured proportionately. So for instance, a RED container is 1 cup and that 1 cup is designated for protein only. Green is also 1 cup and that’s for veggies. Yellow is for carbs, purple is for fruit and orange is for dressings and seeds. Based on the calculation chart that it comes with I will get to eat 3 reds for the day. It tells you specifically based on your current weight and where you hope to be at the end of 21 days. It’s kinda cool actually.
Combine eating clean with working out 21 days in a row and you’re bound to feel 100% better! And…you’ll probably lose some inches as well! The point of this program is to develop a healthier lifestyle and make it a habit.
I can’t tell you how proud I am of my Mom. She’s been working with her container system & drinking her Shakeology, which helps curb her cravings and keeps her full for about 2-3 hours. She’s been doing her best to eat clean for the last 45 days or so. Those of you that are lucky enough to know my Mom, know that she loves her glass of wine and won’t miss a meal out with friends and family. She’s basically living her life, making better choices & eating better with the help of the portion controlled container system. She has recently added pushing play to her lifestyle & has been doing a workout program called Slim in 6. At 66 years old she’s getting up and pushing play! I’m SO INCREDIBLY proud of her and EXCITED to say that she has lost 13lbs!!! 13lbs! That is INSANE! When she told me I almost cried! I was so excited! It just goes to show you that health can be achieved at any age.
I’m counting down the days till January 2nd and measuring our progress together! We’ll be on the challenge group app together and would love for you to join us. Let’s get 2017 started right with 21 days of a new habit!
Message me at email@example.com for details about the group & pricing on programs. 21 Day Fix can be streamed for as low as $9/month, you just have to ask me how.
"Merry Christmas you Fabulous Animals!' Did you see what I did there? I took it right back to Home Alone and substituted Filthy with Fabulous? Did you notice? Know what line I'm talking about? No? Only me? Okay... Apparently I've seen that movie one too many times. Love you all! Muah!
Picture this. A 34 year old woman, she's married, has a little girl age 3 and 3/4, works a full time job, and for the most part has her shit together. I mean she's a Mom, wife and career woman, regardless of title, do we really ever have it all together? I digress, her birthday is coming and soon she'll be the big 35. No biggie, it's just another birthday. They seem to come every year regardless of want or need. So she's responsible and schedules her yearly Dr's appointments.
She does it all. Dentist, check. Optometrist - New contacts, new prescription, thicker glasses and she still can't see. Whatever, it’s done, check it off the list. Dermatologist, check. Life as usual right? Next stop OBGYN. No one likes these exams, they're not a good time, like seriously ever. She wishes she could say that the only time she's been to see this particular Dr. is at her yearly exam. But, that's not the case. She's been going about twice a year since her daughter was born. Don't freak, there's nothing physically wrong with her, she's just been trying to get pregnant for 3 years now.
We're talking 3 years of each and every month being emotionally kicked in the pants. Peeing on a stick only to see one line. ONE freakin' line! To say the "odds are ever in her favor" is an understatement. She's got 36 months under her belt. Normal time frame of conception for the average healthy adult is 6-12 months. She's due!
Her personality is very much one of determination and perseverance. When this girl wants something she stops at nothing to achieve it. You could say, she's very goal oriented, organized, in the zone (Okay Britney Spears), no one gets in her way, or whatever you want to call it.
She's done everything right. She's changed her diet, she's changed his diet, she's read every article, downloaded every calendar, did every ovulation test, literally has looked at every option. She's "relaxed and it'll happen when it's supposed to." She's "taken a break." She’s “gone on vacation.” She's listened to all the unsolicited advice and only told one person to shove it...that one time.
She's been such a freak about "how to get pregnant now" that she's on the verge of losing her partner in life. Passion - gone. Fun? Fun flew out the window. Sexy? What? Is that a four letter word? I've heard of that, what is that?
She gets home from work, eats dinner, gets the kiddo to do bath, brush, books, & bed routine. Throws on her super comfortable pajama pants, BIG ol' granny panties and a baggy loose fitting t-shirt like clock work. You could say these items are her favorite clothing line. In fact, she looks for these items in the high end stores because she knows they'll be softer and more high quality. WTF?!? Is this her life? What has happened?
Now she's sitting with her OB GYN discussing life, ovaries, self breast exams, future pregnancies, AND THEN....The Dr says those words. That nasty, nasty, worse than the F-word - word. "Advanced Maternal Age." It went something like this actually, "Well now that you're 35 you're of Advanced Maternal Age and I highly recommend...." OH GAWD JUST STOP NOW. Then words like specialist come up, fertility Doctors, fertility plans, hormones, sperm testing, clomid, and other options.
Referrals are flooded her way in the form of multiple business cards. Possible procedures for having your tubes cleaned out are discussed & basically the “what you need to do next.” Wait...Hold on? Did you say “tubes cleaned out?” What? Her body is not a vacuum cleaner! She's thinking, How is this my life? Now, keep in mind this isn't the first time she's heard the "next steps" speech. She's actually switched Dr's so she could hear the same spiel from a different Dr. You know, keep it fresh. She's presented these options to her husband and has tried to get him on board, but he's of the mindset that it will happen when it happens...... Great. The control freak in her is literally losing her shit.
So with everything that you know now we can stop talking in 3rd person? I'm her. I'm that woman who's about to turn 35 and at the stroke of midnight become “high risk.” So what happens next? I literally leave her office in tears. Those 3 words mean so much more than a protected class, possible complications, high risk and an extra ultrasound. They mean I'm almost out of time. They mean that when I blow out my candles my clock is literally tick, tick ticking away and I can't do anything to stop it. I'm like Marisa Tomei in My Cousin Vinny, stomping my feet on the ground screaming, "My biological clock is ticking like this!" (stomp! stomp! stomp!) Except I'm way too big to wear her outfit and there's no way I could do her accent justice. Love her, love that movie! Classic!
I can't control the situation. I can't schedule a baby. I can't call in the stork for delivery. With everything going on in my life, I know I can control my bank account, I can control my starbucks order, I can control the temperature in the room, but I can not make nature speed up the process without, a little extra help from science. And oh wait, my husband isn't on board with the "extra" help.
So you can guess what happens next. Depression through the roof. Negativity sky high. Anxiety, don't get me started. I'm looking into Dr's who'll prescribe me something, anything, for these symptoms I can't shake. My mental and physical being is not only affecting my home life but it’s now creeping into my work life, my bread and butter, my only source of income. I work in sales, and basically, if I don’t sell, I don’t make a dime. Would you want to buy something from a person who has anxiety & depression? Or appeared to be unconfident and super negative? No, you wouldn’t.
My partner at work, aka best friend, aka family, aka splits all commissions with me, one day told me, “You need to get it together.” Talk about a wake up a call! It’s one thing for me to be down in the dumps at home, but when your income is affecting someone else's livelihood too? Not good. I’m not that person. I don’t want to be that person and I know I’m better than this!
She became my new light at the end of the tunnel. A new focus. Each and every morning she posts 15 second videos on her instagram account of her doing her morning workouts. She was in her groove and getting her, “operation hot Mom” body back. She recently had her 2nd baby and was back to work as a full time employee with 2 kids under the age of two. To say she has her shit together is an understatement. She did and she rocked it!
She told me, “you need to do what I’m doing.” I was like, yeah yeah yeah...not interested. She’d let it go, but then it would come up in conversations here and there. We literally work in the same office, like 2 feet from one another, we talk, A LOT. The next thing I know, each morning I’d find myself grabbing my phone to see if she posted yet. I mean, it’s stupid right? She was sweaty, doing some moves full out, modifying with others, push ups on her knees, hair pulled back, no make up, kids running around in the background, but she was real. She’s no Jillian Michaels, I mean she literally just popped out a 9lb baby 3 months prior! She was just being 100% herself. She came back to work a totally different person. Happy, refreshed, glowing, driven, determined, and so much positivity. It’s like it was oozing out of her. Like, annoyingly oozing! Thank the good Lord that girl wore me down. I’m so glad she did!
I started my new life the same day I pee’d on my last pregnancy test. I’m SO done with those damn things! We talked about which program would work best for me and I ordered it through a link she sent me to her coaching website. I kickstarted my new life with The T25 Kickstart Challenge Pack. It comes included with a cleanse that you can eat on called, The 3 Day Refresh, a workout program called T25, which is a DVD set, a resistance band, the nutrition guide & the calendar for when to do each 25 minute daily workout, as well as, 30 days of beachbody on demand and a bag of Vegan Chocolate Shakeology.
The next thing I know I can’t wait to set my alarm for 5:45am! I’m setting out my workout clothes the night before and look forward to checking off my workout in the Challenge Group tracker app. My coworker, a coach, added me to her challenge group and I jumped in full force. I got a high off of sharing my workout with these women who’m I’d never met. It’s like I didn’t want to let them down by not posting that day. I know they could care less but I wanted to be present everyday. My new light was growing and then the pounds started coming off.
I lost 4lbs in the first 3 days of the cleanse and am now down a total of 12lbs! I went from a size 12 to a size 8! And you better believe I’m smiling as I type this post! Depression gone, negativity a thing of the past, and anxiety comes and goes. But I’ll take ⅔ any day! My new physical routine is literally my emotional therapy. I don’t know too many men and women who’ve lost weight talking to a therapist, do you?
I’m still not pregnant, but I know my new lifestyle will help the process. One of the ingredients in Shakeology is Maca Root. This is something that helps with libido & ovarian health. I was taking this in raw form at one point, gross!! ...Yes, I’ve tried everything…even Queen Bee’s jelly. Google it. It’s like $26 for a capsule of weird Queen Bee butt juice that you ingest. EWE!!!! Literally…..Tried…...Everything.
I do hope and pray that it will happen someday. A little baby brother or sister for my daughter would be the icing on the cake. I know this is in my future! My astrologer told me so! Except she said it would happen 3 months ago, so maybe we should just take her word with a grain of salt. But she sounded so dang confident and matter of fact, so I hope she’s right! Maybe she’s just off by a few months or 8...
I’m now down 12lbs from August. My BMI is 2 points lower and my Dr. said that although I wasn’t in the obese category to begin with. I was only .4 points away from being considered obese. To be 2 points lower is huge and means that my body is that much healthier. She was super positive and said, “this can only help.”
So with all that being said, you don’t have to have a “Why” story like mine where you’re struggling to have a baby. I’m sure your “Why?” has it’s own story behind it. The great thing about the simple question of, “Why?” Is that your answer to such a simple question can be your driving force & reason to make a change for the better.
This change for me has turned my life around. It’s given me a new focus, a new outlook, and a healthier mental and emotional state in return. I’ve definitely got my SEXY back! My confidence has sky rocketed and boy do I love trying on clothes again! I’m so grateful my coworker pushed this on me. I’m forever in her debt. Now, I want to pay it forward and help others. That’s WHY I became a coach.
What’s your Why?
Email me, I’d love to hear from you & have you join me on this AMAZING new journey! firstname.lastname@example.org Or if you're not ready yet, that's okay, follow me on Instagram @mrskristirae I'll be here when you're ready. This is lifestyle change for me. I'm in it for the long haul. It's not a fad diet or a get rich quick scheme (this company is not like that). If you want results you have to put in the effort, plain and simple. It's a true solution and it's making my life and others better. Thank you for being my therapy & listening. You're all amazing and wonderful people! I'm sending you hugs through the internet!